Thank you immensely for all that you do for spouses who have a husband/wife with a sexual addiction.
I was that wife. I was married only ten years with 6 young children when I realized that my husband had a deeply hidden sexual addiction. I could have easily left my husband and taken the children with me, but through the grace of God, and the spiritual direction of a solid priest, I persevered for another 20 years in a celibate marriage, praying constantly for my husband. I knew that had I left, my children would be high- risk for all kinds of trouble.
I recall the Priest saying, “if your husband had a physical illness, say cancer, would you care for him?”
I answered arguably, “yes, but this is different!.”
Through the guidance of a dear priest, I relied on God, daily Mass, mental prayer, spiritual reading and the Rosary as my guide.
We were married 30 years when my husband died of a heart attack. I was able to get a priest to give him his last rites.
I cannot tell you how grateful I am to that priest and to God for giving me the grace of perseverance.
I hear of so many young wives that leave their husbands – oh, how I wish I could counsel them to stay and carry the cross. I had a friend who was in a similar circumstance and she left her husband. Years later, after their divorce and after he passed away, she confided in me that she wished she had stayed. Her children were lost and suffered tremendously.
I am a youthful 63 year old who has the love and affection of all of my children and now grandchildren. Please, please encourage women to stay the course – and wait for the resurrection.
I actually wrote the entire story into a book – I should try and publish it. Who knows, maybe some solid producer will make it into a movie.
Lastly, all the actors, actresses, film crew, photographers, etc. that have driven people into sex addiction – may God help them.
Angela
